Letting Go and Moving On...

Okay so it's officially "out with the old and in with the new".  The old is hard, rugged and dead to any sense of commitment, affection and loyalty. The new? Well, that's a whole bother beast. The new comes with emotional scars, walls and an inability to love wholly and completely. So how do we do this? First you gotta figure out if he's even worth all the time and effort it takes to be chipping at and breaking down walls.... then if at all possible you have to come to terms that just because you grab the chisel and hammer and attempt to sculpt what you deem the perfect lover, it doesn't mean he/she will be perfect at all. In fact let's be honest, it's more than likely that they won't be perfect at all.

Here's what I've learned...that no matter how "to good to be true" a person may seem in the beginning, they usually end up being totally nothing like what you first perceived them to be at all. This could be good AND it could be bad, whatever the case you must ALWAYS remember to be careful what you ask for. With everything it is you THINK you want, there also come a lot of things you don't want. Take time to find out what those things are, and if you can tolerate them in a relationship...or not.

TRUST

Okay once you've lost respect for a man, it's pretty much a wrap.. At that point all the innocence of the relationship is gone.  The innocence being all the BELIEF, the HOPE the DREAMS, the PLANS, and the  GOALS  you had when first going in to the relationship.

I’d say Trust is the most important and the most abused in most relationships because it IS genuinely innocent ...it believes EVERYTHING...and it doesn't question anything. Look, even when intuition kicks in, TRUST has been known to make a few of us deny that also! (people don't know how deep trust is and they take it for granted. smh) This is why once the trust is gone it can very seldom be rebuilt to what it was before it was broken. Whatever they did to break that trust, will honestly NEVER be forgotten....well, at least for "me" anyway. I don't forget shyt. lol

Now that's not to say I won't forgive, but it's hard for me to forget.......and I admit, Im not beyond bringing up "old" shyt during an argument or “heated discussion” every now and then either….but aye don’t judge me, Im still a work in progress myself, Im not perfect. lol

See, to me “to forget” means that you’ll end up falling for the same tricks yet again…but to remember them means you’ll never fall for the same tricks again....Lesson Learned. There's no point in forgetting the experiences when it's those same experiences in love that make you the person you are...be they good experiences or bad ones.


So my loves, always be forgiving when you can, but NEVER, never, ever, ever forget. And if you can't trust a person LEAVE THEM ALONE. Understand that if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it ain't Aflack, it's a damn DUCK! So don't be afraid to trust your gut, it's usually the first thing to tell you "something' ain't right"....now if you don't even trust yourself, then you got issues I can't help you fix, YOU have to work that out, because TRUST is like LOVE, you can't feel it for anybody else if you don't feel it for yourself.


Keep your head up my loves and stay positive!!


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